Change is inevitable, especially for couples navigating married life. But for KZ Tandingan and TJ Monterde, many of those changes have only made their relationship sweeter and stronger. During their interview with Vice Ganda on “Gandang Gabi Vice,” the lovebirds opened up about how they continue to love each other through every new version of themselves.
“Part ng commitment mo 'yun, eh... to love every version of your spouse,” said KZ. “Kahit kahit naman ikaw magbabago ka, and you want the same grace na 'yun para sa sarili mo na, sana mahalin din niya ako sa lahat ng ups and downs ng KZ. So gano'n din dapat ako sa kanya, sa lahat ng versions ng TJ.”
After 11 years together, KZ and TJ have already seen so many versions of each other. And rather than resisting changes, they’ve learned to adjust the kind of love they give depending on what the other person needs at a certain point in life.
There was a time when KZ struggled with depression, so much that she felt she didn't have any love left to give, even to herself, so she thought letting TJ go was the kinder choice. “Sabi ko, ‘Makikipaghiwalay na ako sa’yo kasi I'm not able to give you the love that you deserve. Hindi kita nabibigyan ng atensyon.’ Kasi no'ng time na 'yun, depressed talaga ako,” she bared.
KZ was pushing people away, especially TJ, thinking that keeping him at a distance would spare him from the darkness she was going through. But TJ didn't give up. “Ako ang magmamahal para sa ating dalawa,” he told her back then.
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